Blaming yourself for having diabetes is pointless, ineffective, and can actually lead to elevated stress, frustration—and anger.
You know the feeling (perhaps all too well). It slowly escalates, makes your blood boil, and before you know it you are taking it out on those you love the most. Then, you feel bad about letting “it” get the best of you. You may or may not apologize but eventually you move on. But before you know, the anger returns.
Anger is an emotion, a strong emotion that is often short-lived—or at least you may think the anger has dissipated, but, what you may or may not realize, if the issue or situation that originally manifested the anger is not addressed, the emotion just lies dormant within your body until the situation happens again.
Next time you find yourself angry, be sure to dissect what is making you feel that way, did you perhaps over-indulge on sweets? Did not workout as many times as you wish you would have? Maybe a friend said a comment about your diabetes that aggravated you. Whatever it is, managing diabetes is not going to get any easier if you are angry.
Now moving forward, once you’ve broken down why it is you lost control, try remembering that feeling right before you, let’s say, serve yourself an extra slice of cake or skip your daily exercise. Also, if you did miss a workout—don’t beat yourself up. Be sure to move on. Every day is a new day—just be sure to learn from your mistakes.
Another way to manage anger is find something that makes you happy. Call a friend who understands you and your diabetes, find a quiet spot and meditate, or simply get the help you need instead of trying to do everything yourself (call your doctor, seek a therapist—getting help can work wonders).
Next time you find yourself angry, be sure to analyze and off-load. In the words of the late great American author and humorist Mark Twain, “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than anything on which it is poured.”